It's a beautiful warm Wednesday evening in Los Angeles and I was
fortunate enough to catch up with the Scooting Scholar at one of his
favorite hangouts: Phil's Deli at the Farmer's Market. It gave me the
chance to sit down and talk with him and get his opinions on life,
love, and anything else he might dare mention.
Richie Rich (RR): Thanks so much for agreeing to meet with me.
You're a difficult one to keep up with sometimes.
Scooting Scholar (SS): My pleasure. Actually the timing could
not have been better. I was called back down to the studio again today
to help out with the new edition of MATCH GAME. By the time I was done
it was the height of rush hour, so I wasn't about to try and fight
traffic all the way back home. So this is perfect.
RR: Great. First off, I have to ask this question: have you lost
weight?
SS: You too? I knew this was coming. Are you accusing me of the
two-finger diet?
RR: No, I was only asking a question.
SS: Oh.
RR: So?
SS: Well, yes, I am down a few pounds in the last 6 to 8 months.
I can't really tell you why except I don't have quite the same
appetite I once did. If I'm not hungry, I most likely won't eat. I also exercise more. Go back and read my post
titled "Weight a Minute" and you'll see what I am talking about.
RR: So, you've been blogging for almost two years now. How's that
been working out for you and what keeps you motivated?
SS: Good memory. If I recall correctly, my initial post was July
6, 2006. Overall it has been pretty fun. But technically I don't know
if this should really be called a blog per se. I mean it's more like a
column, especially if you compare it to stuff like my friend Andrea
Zak writes.
RR: I see. So is it still fun?
SS: Like I said, it has been fun for the most part. And lately I
have really found my groove. Over the last couple of months I have
been composing at least one article a week. But that was preceded by a
couple of dry spells.
RR: You mean like the one you had last fall?
SS: Oh Yeah. Especially last fall. I guess I was going through
some personal turmoil. I don't know for sure. All I can tell you is
that I felt as though a part of my brain had been shut off.
RR: What did you do to reenergize yourself?
SS: First I smoked a little weed to get the juices flowing
again...
RR: You say that with a straight face.
SS: I am kidding you, OK? Just kidding. Seriously, how I was
able to just pick up writing again is as big a mystery to me as what
caused me to shut down in the first place. I am sure there was some
self-doubt in there somewhere that no one really wants to read about
what I have to say. Or that I must have this huge ego to think my
opinions or stories are really that important.
RR: What changed your attitude?
SS: I can't really say exactly. I just began to sit down and
write again - for myself. Sure I love it when my readers comment about
what I have to say. But I simply like being able to discuss things in
written form. Somehow writing things down seems more permanent and
real to me.
RR: When do you find the time? You're a doctoral student, you
teach, and I am sure you have some kind of a social life.
SS: (Laughing) Have you heard the term "smoke and mirrors?"
Let's leave it at that. But for the most part I am always thinking
about a new topic or vignette. I always keep a notebook or notepad
handy to jot down ideas.
RR: And what about the social life?
SS: What about it? Are you just trying to hurt me? Cause you're
doing a pretty good job.
RR: Well, I didn't mean to touch upon a sore subject.
SS: No, it's OK. I just wish it was a little better, that's
all.
RR: So that means there's no one special in your life right now?
SS: (Sighs) Yes and no. It's complicated.
RR: Complicated? How so?
SS: Let's just say it's in the infant stage right now. I am a
hopeless romantic and an eternal optimist. I will say this, I have
never met another woman quite like her. She is a super woman.
RR: Let me play devil's advocate, if you will. What if things don't
work out? What would you be seeking in a woman for her to capture your
heart?
SS: Like I said, I am an eternal optimist so as far as I am
concerned, my heart is captured. But to play along, well she has to be
beautiful - yeah I am superficial. However, that can be very
subjective as you know. What I may find stunning or attractive, may
not be so to the guy next to me and vice versa.
RR: What else?
SS: Well, she has to know how to take care of herself and laugh
at herself. I love to laugh so I want someone who can laugh at me,
with me, and at herself. Most of all I just I want to do it all the
right way. Courtship, flowers and everything.
RR: You actually sound kind of old fashioned. What about age?
SS: (Laughing) It's not that I am old fashioned, I just have no
skills. But as far as age, you know, I have been blessed with a fairly
youthful appearance, lots of energy, and a kid-like attitude. However,
that doesn't erase the fact I am now 41 years-old. It's something I
have to face whether I like to admit it or not.
RR: What are you trying to say? After all, isn't age but a number?
SS: Yes, it is. But with our ages come different frames of
reference. That hot 22-year-old grew up on Barney. I don't know if I
necessarily want to travel down that road. It's nice to be able share
similar life experiences with someone closer to your own age. At least
that's the way I view it.
RR: Speaking of being 41, happy belated birthday.
SS: Thanks very much.
RR: I saw you had a real nice celebration.
SS: Yes. It was quite fun having friends and family over. It was
a new experience for me. Very liberating. I like being around people -
and even when I am in my "social loner" mode, it's usually in a very
public space.
RR: So, do you plan on having any other parties soon?
SS: I don't know about soon - parties can get pretty expensive.
But I am a huge theme guy. So for instance, my party had the theme "41
or 14." Maybe it's the writer in me that likes to title everything.
But I do have something in mind for the fall. I would love to host an
after Thanksgiving leftovers party/potluck where everyone brings
leftovers from their own Thanksgiving celebrations.
RR: That sounds like it could be fun.
SS: Yeah.
RR: So the social life is still a work-in-progress. Any regrets
about returning to the single life?
SS: Returning? Depending on how you look at it, I have been
single for quite a few years. On the other hand, I feel as though I am
entering true bachelorhood for the first time. But to answer your
question, no I have no regrets.
RR: What about life in general? Any regrets there?
SS: You mean like do I regret not skydiving naked or something
like that?
RR: Is that your regret?
SS: No I was being silly. To be honest, I have been thinking
about this for a while. Maybe it's a by-product of age or maybe it's a
result of wishing some things in my life were different. Over all, I
don't have many, but I can think of a couple.
RR: Such as?
SS: Well, if I had it to do all over again, I think I would have
attended Oakwood College in Alabama at least one year.
RR: Oakwood is the historically black Adventist college?
SS: Correct.
RR: Why is that a regret?
SS: Well, I think it would have expanded my sphere - as well as
maybe I would have matured socially earlier since that was something
which took me much longer than it should have. Plus I like knowing a
lot of people.
RR: What else?
SS: This one is trickier, but there are times when I wish I had
finished my undergrad education in four years instead of 18. Maybe it
would have made a difference where I am now. Not that I am not happy,
because I think I can serve as an inspiration to adults who go back to
school. But I also I missed some opportunities in areas that
are important to me like writing for television. Had I had my degree,
it might have made a difference in terms of time devoted to the craft.
It might have given me some career and time flexibility I didn't have
because I was working full-time. But that's the past.
RR: So what is next for you?
SS: Well, I am trying to continue work on my PhD.
RR: And how's that coming along?
SS: Remember that phrase I used earlier, smoke and mirrors? It
can be tough for me because I don't regard myself as a classic
academic whatsoever. In fact, I sometimes would refer to myself as the
"blue collar scholar" simply because I am probably the least
academically inclined academic you'll ever meet.
RR: But you're continuing your pursuit, correct?
SS: Oh yes. But I will be honest with you when I say I don't
know if I really have that much to say or "contribute to the
conversation" as my colleagues often like to put it. Personally, I feel
as though I make a bigger contribution through my blog even if almost
all of the readers are people who know me. Unfortunately, my blog
doesn't pay my bills.
RR: One last question.
SS: Am I wearing a thong? Don't you think that's a bit personal?
RR: Uh, that's not where I was headed. I was preparing to ask if
you have any other projects you might be working on or considering?
SS: Right now, I have nothing really specific. Most of my
writing is either blog related or career related so that takes up most
of my mental energy. But I am a dreamer so I am always thinking about
something. You never know what crazy idea might pop into my brain
next. And believe me, I can think of crazy off-the-wall ideas (wink
wink).
RR: Well, thank you so muck for taking time to sit down and chat
with me for a bit.
SS: Thank you. It was a pleasure.